What You Don’t See Matters

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Several years ago, back when I was a substitute teacher at the local high school, I had a student in class who would always come in late. He would lay his head down on his desk with his hood pulled over his head and sleep. He was never rude to me. In fact, he was very polite. However, he would still ignore my pleas to pay attention and do his work. One day, I mentioned this to one of the staff hoping to gain some guidance and her response was, “Oh, yeah, he’s a slacker. Just a stoner. He’s got a messed up home life. Just overlook him. We are just hoping he can make it to graduation.” I kid you not! Those were her words verbatim. Being a once misunderstood teenager myself back in the day, I couldn’t just “overlook him”. I was so bothered by her statement that I slipped off into the office bathroom and cried in the dark. It crushed my heart.

All I could do was pray…

It was a week night. Not sure which one. Does that part even matter? Hold on, we shall find out later. Our oldest son was having a great deal of stomach pain. I gave my best motherly advice, “Go poop.” He did and that just and it made it hurt worse. As the evening dragged on, his symptoms became more intense and a fever crept in. Concerned that it might be his appendix, our oldest daughter and I took him to the emergency room while my husband stayed home with our two younger children. We spent several hours waiting for him to be seen by a doctor, then we waited a while longer for him to get an ultra-sound which led to waiting a little longer still on results. Fortunately, the results from tests and ultra-sound showed nothing really out of the ordinary and he was diagnosed with gastritis. He was given something to help ease his pain and lower his temperature and then sent home with some dietary instructions and a prescription for bacterial infection. By that time it was very late. We had skipped dinner earlier that evening.

We were tired and hungry.

Shreveport can be pretty sketchy after midnight. Okay, pretty much anytime these days. Also, there aren’t many decent places near the hospital to grab food that late. Add to that, we lived several miles outside of town where, at that time, we had no local restaurants and the gas stations closed up around 9:00 pm. We were thrilled to see that the Taco Bell drive-thru was open. Our son was not hungry for obvious reasons. He curled up in the back seat and went to sleep. We pulled up to the menu and looked it over as if we were going to order something different from the bazillion other times we had gone there. We placed our order and then proceeded to drive up to the window. It was around 1:15 am. I just wanted to get our food, eat on the way home, and go to bed. I had agreed to substitute at the school the next morning and I was already dreading how tired I was going to be and how long the day was ahead of me after what would be only a few hours of precious sleep. That’s when I heard the most excited voice coming from the other side of the drive-thru window shouting a long drawn out, “Mrs. Kuuuuuuntz!” There in the window with the biggest smile on his face was the sleepy “slacker” and “stoner” I had been told to “overlook”. We had a very short conversation. In that little moment, I learned a lot more about that young man that most of his teachers had in years. Oh, had they only taken the time to ask questions. If only I had. He wasn’t a slacker and he wasn’t stoned! He was just tired!! What we didn’t see was a hardworking young man and that matters.

There was so much more to this young man’s story.

The next day at school, I was assigned to the same Algebra class where I had first met the “tired” student. Being rather consistent, he walked in late, went to his desk, pulled his hood over his head and attempted to sleep. But this time I knew why he was late, so I didn’t get on to him. After the class settled down with their assignments, I walked back to his desk as few of the other students ‘oooo’d‘ thinking that I was about to send him “down the hall”. Instead, I tapped him on the shoulder and told him that if he would take 15 minutes to complete the assignment sheet, he could go to sleep without being disturbed the remainder of the class. His eyes lit up and he smiled. I told him that even young people get tired. He thanked me, took the assignment sheet, did the work -correctly I might add- and then pulled his hood over his head and went to sleep. From that point on, we did this routine every time I subbed that class.

But wait, there’s more!. Stay with me, now, this is good stuff!

The next year, I was standing in the school hallway in between the library and the breakroom waiting for someone to bring the elusive breakroom key that was not privy to lowly substitutes like myself. As I stood there patiently waiting, I noticed two female students a little ways down the hall having what appeared to be a pretty intense conversation. Ones of the girls walked away while the other stayed behind and started crying. Anyone who knows me knows exactly what happened next. I walked over and asked her if I could hug her. Yes, I knew that was against the rules. No, I didn’t care.

A crying female almost always needs a motherly hug.

I didn’t ask any other questions right way, but rather I proceeded to break another rule. I told her that God loved her and that He had a plan for her life. Then, I offered to pray for her. She pulled back, sheepishly smiled and shared a small piece of her story. She explained how she had just checked in late and received detention for excessive tardies. Not sure the reason for the previous tardies, but this particular time, she was late because the family car would not start. This latest tardy earned her a Saturday detention. She was really upset about it. You see, her dad had lost his job the year before and had been financially struggling to provide ever since. He would work odd jobs to keep the bills paid and even her brother worked to help the family stay afloat. Add to that difficult challenge, family had only the one shared vehicle. What little money they had would be needed to fix the car. In addition, he had a job to be at that Saturday and didn’t have the time nor the means to get his daughter to detention. Naturally, I offered to take her.

What happened next was truly a God moment. A reminder of Divine Appointments.

As she started to walk away, she paused and looked back. She said, “You’re that sub my brother told me about last year. You looked for him. He said that you were really cool and that you had his back.” Completely flattered, I asked who her brother was. Have you guessed yet?

Fast Forward

Years later, our youngest son is now the student who is often tardy to school because it’s a struggle to get out of bed every morning. Unlike the students’ in the story, he doesn’t have to work to help out the family finances. He chooses to work. He has been like that his entire life. He worked a very tough job this past summer and was able to save up and buy the truck he is now driving. I should mention that he had mono during this whole time making that tough job even tougher. He pays for his own gas and he uses his own money to fix up his truck or to go eat with his friends. He gets up each morning, gets ready, takes care of the dogs on the three mornings his dad is out of town working, and then he goes to school. After school, he goes home, checks on the dogs, changes clothes, grabs a bite to eat, then heads off to his job. Depending on that night’s schedule, he returns home around 10:30-11:30 pm, gives me a hug, gets the dogs (they sleep with him), hits up social media one more time, then goes to bed, only to start the whole process over again the next day. He requested as many hours as they would give him because he wants to fix his truck up real nice. If you work in the school office or are one of his teachers, you might not know that about him. You might think that he is a “slacker” or a “stoner”, or “spoiled”. He’s not. (Okay, maybe just a little spoiled. But in a good way, not rotten). He is a hardworking, determined young man who does his work behind the scenes.

This week, the Bible study group that I am in is studying about Jehosheba. (“Faithful” -by twelve contributing authors) Her short story is found in 2 Kings 11:2. Like a town with only one stop sign, there is much to see here, but if you blink, you’ll miss it. Here, let me show you what the New International Version Bible says:

But Jehosheba, the daughter of King Jehoram and sister of Ahaziah, took Joash son of Ahaziah and stole him away from among the royal princes, who were about to be murdered. She put him and his nurse in a bedroom to hide him from Athaliah; so he was not killed. 2 Kings 11:2

So, here’s the gist of this significantly huge short story found snuggled in 2 Kings 11. Jehosheba’s stepmom was married to her daddy, Jehoram, the king. Jehosheba’s mother was Zibiah in the lineage of Judah. Athalia lost her ever-loving mind when her son, Ahaziah died. In a fit of rage she ordered all the royal sons be put to death. Jehosheba and Ahaziah shared the same baby daddy, so that made his son, Joash, her nephew and the grandson of the crazy grand-mammy. Jehosheba takes her nephew and his nurse and hides them to spare their lives. Six years later, a high priest named Jehoida gets wind of this and, along with a team of guards, helps get the rightful and very young heir to the throne, back to where he belonged, and Athalia is killed. Seriously, how bad is your family really? What she did in secret helped save an entire bloodline that would one day lead to Christ Jesus himself! That’s her story. Oh, and Joash went on to have a son named Gideon.

One little verse of recognition, one ginormous story!

Why is her story significant to mine? Because there was not big production, no social media worthy comments or pics, but what she did was absolutely huge even though most might overlook that little nugget of history about the line (and soon coming Lion) of Judah. What seemed like a simple act of courage was really quite impactful on so many others.

Every thing we do will either lead us and others to Christ or away

There are so many people around us every day who do so much more than you see on the surface. They don’t advertise or draw attention to themselves. They don’t post their every move on social media. They just do what they feel led to do. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t give praise reports or offer testimonies to bring about awareness and change. It also doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with sharing your life’s snapshots on social media. Just be mindful and compassionate, not boastful or attention seeking. Be discerning, yet slow to judge.

What you don’t see matters!

Now, go do what you know is right even when others can’t see you doing it.

For further study and insight, check out 2 Kings 10:11, Judges 6-7, Isaiah 40:30-31, Jeremiah 29:11, Matthew 6, Proverbs 9:17

Yee Haw Cerro Negro

The climb was tough and marked with many obstacles. Even the seasoned hikers and young adults in great shape found the trail to be difficult and challenging. It was painful at times; especially when we would look back and discover we had not traveled but a few yards. Then, at other times, we would wrestle with thoughts of turning back only to realize that we had come too far to give up. Somehow we knew there was something great ahead of us as we continued our sojourn. To encourage myself, I kept singing the chorus to The Hoppers’ “I’ve Come Too Far”.

As we climbed the massive hill of volcanic sand, ash, gravel and rock we did all we could to spur one another on to the top.

Some of the younger girls went ahead of our guide and group only to find themselves on the wrong path. Two of the girls got back on track while the third girl struggled in fear as her footing was unsure due to the loose rock on the less traveled surface. Our guide carefully made his way to her and coaxed her back to the safety of the correct path and our group.

The scenery was amazing and so beautiful. From time-to-time I would sing the chorus of “How Great Thou Art”. As I sang I would lift up my hands toward heaven and smile through tears of joy at how great our Creator truly is.

Due to the intense heat and extreme physical challenge on our bodies our water supply quickly ran low. I had brought two water bottles with me and I found myself doing something I never – ever – do. I shared my container with another. (Don’t think I am selfish. I just get freaked out by other people’s mouths touching where my mouth is going to touch). But I knew I had to because this other man and his son had brought only one bottle to share between the two of them and it was almost empty. I was concerned about their safety. Another man in the group helped others by carrying the boards of those who could no longer do so on their own. Yes, I was one of the ones who “let” him. He was a very persistent helper. It only weighed eight pounds but half way up the volcano I had exhausted my physical limits. (Now, back at home, I am determined to lose eight pounds).

Now, I can’t explain this without sounding weird but it’s the absolute truth. Upon putting the lid back on my water bottle and the water bottle in my backpack I had a sudden burst of energy set in. Strength and endurance showed up out of nowhere and I was off and ready to get up that hill. Even the path got smoother! It reminded me of Matthew 10:42 where Jesus talks about giving water in his name.

Before long we reached the top of the volcano and were ready for our descent. Some wasted no time getting on their boards to slide down the steep incline. I was not part of the “some”. I wanted to drink in all the beauty that surrounded me. No, seriously, I was scared to death! It was a half mile down and the incline was extremely steep! Our oldest daughter was there with me and I thought to myself, “What have I gotten my baby into this time?”

The plan was that we would go down together. Well, we all know how some plans go. I rallied my courage, turned on my phone’s Ipod, selected “Rocky Top”, put my earphones in, secured my phone in my backpack, wrapped my bandanna around my face like a train robber, got on my board, shouted “Yee Haw”, and absolutely nothing happened. Well, not exactly. The front of the board dug in to the sand. Talk about a complex! One of the girls told me to lean back towards the rear end of the board. So, I started the process all over again. This time I shot off like lightning. Alone.

The thrill of the ride made the exhausting hike to the top totally worth the work. Even when I tumbled, bounced and slid on my face during my one and only wipe-out, I was at complete peace and so full of joy. I “yee hawed” and laughed all the way. “Rocky Top” was still going strong. Once I got to the bottom and shook off all the volcano sand I realized that the whole left side of my body was covered in tiny wounds and scratches and my shoulder ached. Even then I could not contain the joy I felt or the sense of excitement long enough to be concerned about a little injury and pain. I simply could not stop laughing and shouting, “That was awesome!”

Just as others had done before me, I stuck around at the bottom and watched as the last of our group members came down the massive hill. As each person made his or her way to the bottom, those of us who had gone before cheered them on and welcomed them with shouts of praise and encouragement. It was a victorious moment for each one of us.

A few made the trip down with great and smooth success while some experienced tumbles. One young boy had to go very slow and stopped often. He was very fortunate that our guide was kind and compassionate and stayed with him every step of the way. The important thing is that we all made it.

Recalling the Cerro Negro Volcano experience opened my eyes to what God has been trying to show me all along. My attitude of excitement, anticipation, encouragement, giving, and joy was the key to the success of that journey and is the key to success in this Christian’s life. Not just my attitude either, but the attitude of others as well.

I was also reminded of how staying close to and following our Guide can save us from a lot of unnecessary struggles along life’s path.

The eye-opening message I really loved from God was the picture of those on the trail lifting one another up and spurring them on to the top as well as those at the bottom who were cheering others on as they came down. It was a beautiful picture of friendship and Christianity at its very best.

You see, it doesn’t matter where you are on your path or what type of path you are on. Some paths are easy and worry free while others are difficult and marked with suffering and pain. What does matter is who you are. How you act determines the success of your journey. Had we been complaining about our struggles and fears rather than encouraging one another it would have been the worst experience ever. Instead, it was one of the best memories recorded in my mind.

Now, go cheer someone on their path today.
Proverbs 3:5-6, Matthew 10:42, Acts 27:22, Hebrews 3:13, Hebrews 13:5-6

The Cerro Negro (Black Hill) Volcano is an active volcano in the beautiful country of Nicaragua. It erupts on average every eight to ten years. The last eruption was in 1999.

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